Urban Gentleman Professional Preparation
What you should wear to the interview depends on the industry. Most companies want business casual, but a more traditional or prestigious firm may want full on formal business attire. If it’s an artistic or fashion company you should look chic and stylish, without over doing it– basically build an ensemble around a pair of perfectly fitting dark denim jeans. A very relaxed cultured company may prefer t-shirt and jeans. When in doubt, just call the company and ask.
Always, always bring your resume, atleast 2 copies, maybe 3. Bring the page you printed with the summary of the company– you can study over this while you’re waiting. Bring chapstick, breath mints, and a mirror… you do not want chapped lips, bad breath, or an out of place hair when you go into an interview. These are all items that can fit in your pocket or in the slot of your resume portfolio or folder. Also bring a pin, paper, and a list of questions you want to ask the employer. Employers usually like it when you ask a question or two, this isn’t required, but optional… you can find a list of questions to ask at your school’s career center or online.
Also, bring any materials that they need to see– this may be your portfolio, a past project, etc. Once you’ve secured the interview ask them what you need to bring.
Please be on time, meaning get their before time. Plan to be there 30 minutes before time.
6. A few days after the interview send a thank you letter to your interviewer. Emails are most efficient, but you could also send a thank you note in the mail– it’s pretty old school, but may stand out among the other applicants (as long as it doesn’t get lost in the shuffle of all their other mail).
Now all you can do is pray that you get the job, so be patient and wait. Continue to apply for other positions in the meanwhile.
**(extension of 1. Figure out what you want to do….)
I have a friend who is a biomedical engineer, but has a passion for art. She enjoys her career as a biomedical engineer, but loves painting more than anything else; she paints the most amazing oil paintings. She’s able to sell all of her paintings and has made quite a living off her passion, so much so that in a few years she could probably just be an artist. But in the meanwhile she works in her industry to build her foundation and to build up her bank account. Always remember the quote, “We do what we have to do in order to do what we want to do” (from the Great Debaters). So sometimes you have to prioritize and focus on the career that will make you the most money and will allot you the most opportunities, but then use the funds you make to jumpstart the career that will truly make you happy. Some may call it settling, but it’s only settling if you don’t stick to the game plan. I have three friends/associates who worked for top investment banking firms for a few years, they got tired of the long hours and workload so they quit. They were able to use the couple hundred thousands they had saved from working to open their own businesses doing what they love. This option is not for everyone, but it is for many. If you’ve spent 4-5 years studying engineering, accounting, computer science, or some type of specific major then you should use that degree you worked hard for to fund your passions. Once you’ve smartly saved and planned, you can drop the job and focus on a career doing what you really love.
– Glassdoor.com has to be one of the best websites for those in the process of interviewing for jobs. Past and current employees write about their interviews, salaries, and experiences with the company. Many people even provide you with the specific questions they were asked at specific companies in specific locations. They even let you know if they did or didn’t get the job. Be sure to check this website out.
– You can get more information and tips with suits/business casual attire here.
Hi. I’m a 30 year old urban gent from Birmingham, Al. My girlfriend lives in Tallahassee so I usually there on holidays and weekends. Recently I’ve changed to an older more sophisticated look. Similar to Kendrack Lewis your most recent featured urban gent. My problem is I don’t know what to wear when it’s really hot. When the temp is in the 90’s, it’s really humid, and sweating is unavoidable. Could you help me out?
Hey (name of Alabama gentleman)
When it’s hot keep it simple… its all about wearing quality or proper fitting clothing. Examples of looks to wear on a hot summer day:
1. white polo, seer sucker shorts, navy boat shoes
2. white/colored short sleeves v-neck, very light-weight cardigan with the sleeves rolled up, khaki shorts, canvas shoes
3. long sleeve plaid shirt w/ the sleeves rolled up, jeans, and your choice of shoes
accessorize with a nice pair of trendy shades like black wayfarers and you’re good to go.
The thing is Steven, I know its Really hot, but you’re a gentleman so its never really appropriate to wear combinations like tanks, shorts, and flip-flops unless you’re going to the beach… again, I know its hot, but guys just don’t have as easy as women when it comes to looking very stylish and keeping very cool in the sun… we can always just put on a sleeveless light weight dress and sandals, which would be the coolest thing we could put on aside from a bikini.
– shorts are right at or just above the knees
– sockless w/ loafers, boat shoes, or sandals
(some people say gentleman do not wear sandals,
but I’ll leave that up to you)
– long sleeve shirts and sweaters are rolled up
– top buttons un-done (usually 2)
Also for the summer months:
– carry a linen handkerchief/pocketsquare to dab at sweat
– use sunblock
– always carry sunglasses and/or a hat
– drink LOTS of water
– boxers may keep you cooler than briefs
– use a good deodorant
– consider taking a quickie mid day shower in addition to your morning or night shower, this usually keeps you a little more cool
I am currently very gradually trying to smarten up my wardrobe, and I would like to wear more trousers (casually) rather than jeans, with fitted polos, nice shirts, blazers etc. However, I am finding it difficult to find some suitable footwear for such a smart casual look. I like boat-shoes, and will be picking up a navy or brown pair, but they are more kinda summer wear. I find most loafers, mocs to be too formal, so I was wondering to you have any advice on what type of smart-casual shoes can be worn with trousers.
Hi (Urban Gent’s name- who’s from England),
– boat shoes (sebago/sperrries)
– “dressy sneakers”
– vans (like Pharrell)
I see that you’re already halfway there since you have purchased a pair of boat shoes (sebagoes/sperries). After securing a pair of those then the type of casual shoe you wear is totally dependent on your style. I am personally a big fan of oxfords- there are so many different styles of oxfords and they easily smarten up the wardrobe.
– very casual wingtip lace-up
– moccasins (only if this fits your personality)
Here’s a link of examples from Urban Outfitters: click here. Since the pound is almost double the dollar you can easily order from there (but I think you have to add $50 to the total order)… I really like the Schmoove Oxford, the Generic Surplus Oxford, and the Ben Sherman Vacations Lace-Ups.
Drivers are basically the everyday casual shoe for the man that pretty much doesn’t wear sneakers anymore unless he’s going to the gym or participating in an outdoor activity (that’s sort of my view on it anyway). I don’t like all drivers because some tend to look a bit old and dated, but there are plenty that are sleek and stylish- check some of the drivers out at Neimans: click here. From that page I like the Gucci leather driver- 3rd row number 4, the other Gucci leather driver- 5th row number 4, and the Cole Haan venetian moccasin driver- 5th row number 1…. Also I know alot of men that really love the Ferregamo drivers. You don’t have to buy those exact shoes, but those just give you an idea of the styles that may work for you.
If you want a shoe that is, perhaps, a step between sneakers and oxfords then you could try a “dressy sneaker”… basically like a leather converse or designer tennis shoes- Hugo Boss, Lanvin, etc etc (preferably in a solid color).
** this question is a little dated (about a month and a half– so the shoes I’m referring to may not be there anymore or in the same order, but you can still get the general idea).
On the weekends I try to give you gentlemen different type of advice… something that is applicable to the weekends. Topics over the past few weeks:
And this week: Date Night With Your Lady
Here are some really fun, cute, inexpensive (and kinda expensive) dates you can have with your lady:
1. Dinner & a Movie (yaaaawn)
2. Chinese Take-Out in the Park
3. Roof-top Sunrise
4. Cartoons and Junk Food
5. Salsa Lessons
This is always fun, if you haven’t done it then you need to. Google salsa clubs or salsa lessons given in your area, then setup a time to go. You could make it into a complete Latin night by taking her to a tasty Spanish restaurant after the lessons.
6. Jazz Night
Jazz nights are the best! They make you feel “grown & sexy” (yes I know that phrase is dead, lol, but it’s appropriate for this sentence). Every city has Jazz Nights- it may be at a restaurant, museum, club- just find out where and make sure you go. If you’re from Atlanta I highly recommend Jazz at the High Museum (every 3rd Friday).
7. Unique Restaurant
Everyone goes out to eat, it’s just a basic for the whole dating thing. But for your special chick switch it up by taking her to a unique restaurant. Like a house that was turned into a restaurant or a themed restaurant- just somewhere really different and new.
8. Get-a-way In the City
One of the most romantic dates is when you “get-a-way” in the city. Choose a really elegant hotel and book a room for a night. Order room service, watch movies, give each other massages and just get it on!
At the end of the day, it’s all about thinking outside the box- have fun and be sporadic! Do things that make you both happy:-)
Here’s a quick checklist of things to do when preparing for a female visitor:
1. Clean the living room: this is the first place she’ll see and be.
2. Clean the bathroom: this is so pertinent because if it’s nasty, she’ll think you’re nasty and you’ll quickly loose points with her, lol
3. Clean the kitchen: who knows, she may want to cook for you.
4. Clean the bedroom: this is mainly for men who have roommates or plan to get some nookie.
5. Make sure the place smells good: Use atleast 2 scented candles or 2 Glade plug-ins.
6. Make sure there are no annoying roommates around: they can easily kill the mood.
7. Make sure your satellite or cable is working, if not have a variety of movies prepared.
8. Make sure you smell good, have fresh breath, and
clean cut nails (long dirty nails are a HUGE turnoff)
9. Have a few drinks and snacks prepared: strawberries, grapes, and bottled water are good choices. Maybe some alcohol. .
10.If you do plan on “getting busy”make sure you have condoms and massage oils ready: always use protection- there are waaaay to many STDs out there now-a-days!